"Getting Your Guy" 7 things you can do:In your effort to become a happier woman, ask yourself if you’re a positive or negative
person. Do you focus on what’s wrong with the world and the people around you? No
one likes to be around a negative person, except another negative person. Live by the
adage: If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
If you are negative, it might take some time to notice because it’s a difficult thing
to admit. Just pay attention and you’ll see some patterns emerge. Avoid being critical of
others. It makes others unhappy, and it makes you ugle, which is bound to come back to
you. Wouldn’t you prefer to spread feelings of love and harmony? Look for the positive
and you’ll develop a new habit and a new, more attractive way of being.
Learn to love your body. How do you feel about your body, really? Are your selfcriticisms
unreasonable? There are few women who can stand naked in front of a mirror
and say they love every inch of their bodies, not wanting to make at least some changes.
The point is, do you focus on the imperfections? If so, you’ll be self-conscious and not as
nice to be around. Besides, a perfect body would be boring and so much trouble to
maintain. As novelist Duane Unkefer wrote, “Women don’t know how beautiful they
don’t have to be.”
If a man says he loves your body just as it is, believe him, and don’t ever, ever
respond to his compliments with a put-down of yourself…ever…on any subject. When
you do it you neutralize and discount his compliment and maybe even embarrass him,
and you might not get another. Receive a compliment with a “Thank you” and a smile.
To be even more gracious, embellish it with something like, “How sweet [or kind, or
flattering] you are to say so.”
If you’re not happy with some part of your body, can you do something about it?
Do you need to lose weight? If so, it’s probably affecting your level of happiness. To lose
weight you need to change your eating habits––no dieting allowed––and begin to
exercise. Both will give you a greater sense of well-being, make you feel more confident,
and allow you to wear more attractive clothes.
Do you like your clothes? Are they in good repair? Are they flattering? Make those
repairs, throw away anything that doesn’t make you feel good, and invest in a few quality
items that make you feel terrific. Get a friend to help you go through your closet and help
you shop.
Replace your negative beliefs with empowering beliefs. Affirmations work if they
come from your heart. Look at the beliefs you have about your appearance, your abilities,
your education, etc., and write them down. Then sit quietly and close your eyes. When
you’re relaxed, create new beliefs that state how and what you want to be. Write them
down and repeat them out loud. When you have negative thoughts about yourself turn
them into something empowering and self-loving.
Make a list of four activities that make you happy. Would you like to sign up for
pottery, or dancing, or go swimming? Then do it. Take the time for yourself and the payoff
will be a happier, more contented you.
William James said, “Act as if you are, and you shall be.” Pretend to be happy,
confident, outgoing, and fun, and eventually you’ll develop the habit of being that way. It
works like magic, but you have to press forward, work through your resistance and fears,
and be patient––because it takes time. Your happiness is at stake, so don’t give up.
Take workshops or seminars, read books, or––if you’re comfortable with it––do some
therapy in private or in a group, or create a group of women friends so you can support
each other. Make self-improvement a priority. After all, if you don’t, who will?
Write notes about men and how they are responding to your blossoming Feminine
Grace and anything new changes you noticed within yourself.
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